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Compassion Goes Both Ways (Being Nice to Meat Eaters)

Posted by: Lindsay S. Nixon |

Category: Advice

This question keeps popping up in my inbox -- so I thought I'd address it here on the blog:

I am having a hard time being "nice" to people who eat meat.... ugh, Any advice?

I've mentioned before how its vital that you LEAD BY EXAMPLE and encourage rather than belittle or tear down. Think of all the times someone picked on you for your habits -- don't return that behavior to someone else.

Trust me, I know how frustrating and difficult it can be to coexist and communicate with people who do something that you view as morally wrong, but being kind, nonjudgmental and gently encouraging is the way to go.

I think the most important thing to remember is that we were all once in their position. Most of us did not grow up as vegans or vegetarians. At one point or another, we were all meat-eaters and dairy-eaters, or SAD dieters too -- just like them. While you've made the switch to a healthier diet (hooray!) know that other people aren't there yet. They might not be ready or they might not be informed. Or maybe they just came to a different conclusion. The last thing we want to do is scare them off from our lifestyle! 

I always say, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

Don't push your lifestyle on someone else. You don't want to force someone to change against their will -- you want them to want to make a positive change -- the change has to come from within -- and that is accomplished through encouragement and kindness and leading by example! (Do I sound like a broken record yet?)

You don't want someone to power down and be defensive. You want them to be open to the possibility and curious. 

Foster an attractive environment. If you are happy and loving life and grunting with joy as you eat your meal, other people will come see what the fuss is about and ask you how you got your glow! Trust me.

Remember, you can still be "nice" will giving your opinion -- there is a very distinct line between being informative and ranting or being rude to someone who has different beliefs than you. 

I've tried all the approaches and let me tell you, being information, and nonjudgmental, has the best success rate. 

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Food Cravings and Food Addictions

Posted by: Lindsay S. Nixon |

Category: FAQ

When I blogged about my journey to a plant-based diet, I said I'd follow up with a post about cravings and addictions. Well, here it is! 

Just a kind reminder though -- I'm not a doctor and this isn't medical advice. I'm simply sharing my experiences and repeating information I've read in books (which I link to at the end). Talk to your doctor.

HH's guilt-free black bean brownies!

Breaking Addictions: Many would-be plant-based eaters (vegans) struggle with giving up dairy, particularly cheese and yogurt. While there are several vegan substitutes on the market today that are just as delicious, the problem usually runs much deeper.

Dairy products contain a protein called casein. When our bodies break this protein down during the digestion process, casomorphins (yes, as in “morphine”) are created. These guys then have an opiate effect on our body, making us feel happy and relaxed... and addicted. Nature’s intentions were harmless enough; casein is intended to get a baby calf hooked on its mother’s milk so it keeps coming back for more. However, every time you eat dairy, you fuel an addiction both mentally and physically. Like a cigarette or a drug addiction, your body will physically crave dairy and go into withdrawal without it. Meanwhile, your mind is racing, wanting another happy fix. The only way to stop this vicious cycle is to stop getting high on dairy. 

Cheese also has a greater concentration of casein than any other dairy product, which is why so many people are cheese fanatics. They’re literally hooked.

The good news is most people stop feeling cravings or desires after three weeks, especially when they make a point to use vegan substitutes. Once you give up dairy, you’ll be surprised at the changes in your body. Your digestive system will hum along more smoothly, your skin will clear and, if you need to, you will lose weight.

Anytime you’re tempted to indulge, consider this: If you’re not comfortable breast-feeding on your own mother today, why are you breast-feeding on a cow you’ve never met?

A little in-your-face and controversial, I know (and I apologize!) but it's this kind of stark reality that got me off dairy!

Homemade rice milk!

Examine Cravings: Many new vegans experience cravings for a non-vegan food at some point, and it’s important to understand why these cravings occur. Cravings are often the result of an addiction, but cravings can also be physiological or mental.

Any craving you feel for a specific food is most likely not really for that particular food but a nutrient you’ve come to associate with it. For example, beef, particularly bloody and rare or medium-cooked pieces, have an iron taste to them. As a result, many people subconsciously (and consciously, too, to some extent) associate red meat with iron. Thus, when people find themselves craving red meat, chances are they really just need iron. (Didya know beef isn’t even that a good source of iron? soy beans, lentils, spinach, tofu, sesame seeds, kidney beans, pumpkin seeds, chickpeas and navy beans got burgers beat! big time!)

Cravings can also be mental. We’ve all heard of emotional eating and comfort foods. Our society, culture and identity are often cross-woven with foods. We associate foods with happy memories such as holiday or family tradition, our cultural identity (“I’m Italian”), a happy time in our lives (“I used to make these brownies in college”) or past experiences of comfort and love (“Mom made this for me when I was sick”). From these past associations, foods evoke certain feelings in us, and when we’re having a hard time or a bad day, cravings for them will show up. Eating has essentially become a form of self-soothing. Many people turn to ice cream when they’re sad because ice cream plays a huge part in celebrations and also because sugar and dairy gives us a happy fix.

Excess salt, oil and other processed foods, particularly fast foods like McDonald’s, can also create an addiction in the body. Eating these foods alters your brain chemistry like a drug, and the more you eat, the more you crave. As with dairy, these cravings won’t stop until you break the addiction. 

It’s important to pause for a moment and truly examine our cravings and the underlying cause of them so we can determine if it’s an addiction (i.e., dairy), a nutrient insufficiency (i.e., iron) or simply emotional. 

Cravings can also be multi-pronged issues. For example, in the summer I have intense hankerings for mango and watermelon. This is partly because I spent many summers on the beach with my parents eating watermelon and mango as a child, so I have a happy and sentimental association with these fruits. However, both fruits also naturally help cool off and rehydrate the body, so a hot summer day is likely to invoke a desire for a food I’ve also associated with cooling myself off.

Further Reading:Mindless Eating by Brian Wansink, Ph.D., (My FAVORITE book!) The Pleasure Trap by Drs. Goldhamer and Lisle and Breaking the Food Seduction by Dr. Neal Barnard.

Disclaimer:  I'm not a doctor and this isn't medical advice. I'm simply sharing my experiences and repeating information I've read in books (which I link to, above). Talk to your doctor.

My experience with probiotics (and why I'm still anti supplements)

Posted by: Lindsay S. Nixon |

Category: FAQ

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor and this is not medical advice. Tak to your doctor before making any changes to your diet or regimen.

In case you didn't know, I am an ecoli survivor*

It's been over a month and I'm still in... shall we say, recovery. I've noticed that since having this "experience" my body has decided there are certain foods that I ate before that I can't stomach at all now. Nuts, nut butters and wheat are on the list. While I've been able to eat these things here and there without problem, 9 out of 10 times eating them led to another "episode."

This concerned me, of course, so I sought out medical advise. I contacted two different RDs I know well and respect, and they both had the exact same advice: take probiotics.

I was resistant. I've always had a sort of natural unease towards supplements. Why take a supplement that's processed when I can get what I need directly from nature and it comes with lots of other benefits like fiber? (That's not to say I don't take any supplements -- I love nutritional yeast which itself is a supplement but I don't take vitamins or do protein shakes -- I'd rather eat legumes, fruits and vegetables). 

I've also been so leery of all the hoopla about probiotics, especially since a lot of them are patented, meaning they were created in a lab somewhere (if something comes directly from nature, it cannot be patented!) I feel like probiotics just suddenly appeared in the last few years and I'm always cautious of buzz words or "things" that I don't remember anyone talking about when I was growing up or even ten years ago. (Chia seeds and stevia, as you might guess, also fall into this suspicious category of mine).

Anyway, since I was so concerned about my digestive health and there was no denying ecoli  had really taken a toll on my body, I was open to anything, including breaking my "rule" and taking probiotics. 

After my first go with probiotics (Silk brand soy yogurt, plain), I suffered for hours with digestive distress. I then tried SO Delicious plain coconut yogurt just in case one "brand" was bad and again sick. sick. sick. I thought maybe this is how it's supposed to be so I kept trying with different (vegan) yogurts that had probiotics until last night. Last night was by far the worst, where I just laid in bed clutching my stomach and sobbing. 

I won't go into the details of what was physically happening to me, but know that it was bad, painful and embarrassing.

Now before you send me an angry email or comment -- know that I'm not trying to slam anyone or anything. I'm just retelling my experience, even if its the 1% chance experience because all experiences matter. I am really good at always ending up in the 1% so chances are, I've hit the bulls eye again. 

For what its worth, the European Food Safety Authority (Europe's "FDA") has rejected most claims made about probiotics (including that they help the digestive system), saying they are unproven. 

Point is, we all have to make our own decisions, do whats right for us but I wanted to share my experience in case it helps someone else. someone like me. 

If probiotics work for you, that's great but I remain suspicious -- maybe even a little more so. I think I'l just keep eating whole foods and hope my body recovers on its own with rest, exercise and proper nutrition - directly from nature. 

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor and this is not medical advice. Tak to your doctor before making any changes to your diet or regimen.